vdpa/mlx5: Use vq suspend/resume during .set_map

Instead of tearing down and setting up vq resources, use vq
suspend/resume during .set_map to speed things up a bit.

The vq mr is updated with the new mapping while the vqs are suspended.

If the device doesn't support resumable vqs, do the old teardown and
setup dance.

Reviewed-by: Gal Pressman <gal@nvidia.com>
Acked-by: Eugenio Pérez <eperezma@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Dragos Tatulea <dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Message-Id: <20231225151203.152687-7-dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>