bonding: Fix multiple long standing offload races

Refactor the bonding ipsec offload operations to fix a number of
long-standing control plane races between state migration and user
deletion and a few other issues.

xfrm state deletion can happen concurrently with
bond_change_active_slave() operation. This manifests itself as a
bond_ipsec_del_sa() call with x->lock held, followed by a
bond_ipsec_free_sa() a bit later from a wq. The alternate path of
these calls coming from xfrm_dev_state_flush() can't happen, as that
needs the RTNL lock and bond_change_active_slave() already holds it.

1. bond_ipsec_del_sa_all() might call xdo_dev_state_delete() a second
   time on an xfrm state that was concurrently killed. This is bad.
2. bond_ipsec_add_sa_all() can add a state on the new device, but
   pending bond_ipsec_free_sa() calls from the old device will then hit
   the WARN_ON() and then, worse, call xdo_dev_state_free() on the new
   device without a corresponding xdo_dev_state_delete().
3. Resolve a sleeping in atomic context introduced by the mentioned
   "Fixes" commit.

bond_ipsec_del_sa_all() and bond_ipsec_add_sa_all() now acquire x->lock
and check for x->km.state to help with problems 1 and 2. And since
xso.real_dev is now a private pointer managed by the bonding driver in
xfrm state, make better use of it to fully fix problems 1 and 2. In
bond_ipsec_del_sa_all(), set xso.real_dev to NULL while holding both the
mutex and x->lock, which makes sure that neither bond_ipsec_del_sa() nor
bond_ipsec_free_sa() could run concurrently.

Fix problem 3 by moving the list cleanup (which requires the mutex) from
bond_ipsec_del_sa() (called from atomic context) to bond_ipsec_free_sa()

Finally, simplify bond_ipsec_del_sa() and bond_ipsec_free_sa() by using
xso->real_dev directly, since it's now protected by locks and can be
trusted to always reflect the offload device.

Fixes: 2aeeef90 ("bonding: change ipsec_lock from spin lock to mutex")
Signed-off-by: Cosmin Ratiu <cratiu@nvidia.com>
Reviewed-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@nvidia.com>
Reviewed-by: Nikolay Aleksandrov <razor@blackwall.org>
Reviewed-by: Hangbin Liu <liuhangbin@gmail.com>
Tested-by: Hangbin Liu <liuhangbin@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Steffen Klassert <steffen.klassert@secunet.com>