vdpa/mlx5: Make iotlb helper functions more generic

They will be used in a follow-up patch.

For dup_iotlb, avoid the src == dst case. This is an error.

Acked-by: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Eugenio Pérez <eperezma@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Dragos Tatulea <dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Message-Id: <20231018171456.1624030-17-dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Si-Wei Liu <si-wei.liu@oracle.com>
Tested-by: Si-Wei Liu <si-wei.liu@oracle.com>
Tested-by: Lei Yang <leiyang@redhat.com>