btrfs: simplify obtaining a delayed ref head

Instead of doing it in two steps outside of delayed-ref.c, leaking low
level details such as locking, move the logic entirely to delayed-ref.c
under btrfs_select_ref_head(), reducing code and making things simpler
for the caller.

Reviewed-by: Boris Burkov <boris@bur.io>
Reviewed-by: Qu Wenruo <wqu@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Filipe Manana <fdmanana@suse.com>
Reviewed-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>