vdpa/mlx5: Parallelize VQ suspend/resume for CVQ MQ command

change_num_qps() is still suspending/resuming VQs one by one.
This change switches to parallel suspend/resume.

When increasing the number of queues the flow has changed a bit for
simplicity: the setup_vq() function will always be called before
resume_vqs(). If the VQ is initialized, setup_vq() will exit early. If
the VQ is not initialized, setup_vq() will create it and resume_vqs()
will resume it.

Signed-off-by: Dragos Tatulea <dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Reviewed-by: Tariq Toukan <tariqt@nvidia.com>
Message-Id: <20240816090159.1967650-11-dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Eugenio Pérez <eperezma@redhat.com>
Tested-by: Lei Yang <leiyang@redhat.com>