io_uring: drain based on allocates reqs

Don't rely on CQ sequence numbers for draining, as it has become messy
and needs cq_extra adjustments. Instead, base it on the number of
allocated requests and only allow flushing when all requests are in the
drain list.

As a result, cq_extra is gone, no overhead for its accounting in aux cqe
posting, less bloating as it was inlined before, and it's in general
simpler than trying to track where we should bump it and where it should
be put back like in cases of overflow. Also, it'll likely help with
cleaning and unifying some of the CQ posting helpers.

Signed-off-by: Pavel Begunkov <asml.silence@gmail.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/46ece1e34320b046c06fee2498d6b4cd12a700f2.1746788718.git.asml.silence@gmail.com
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/24497b04b004bceada496033d3c9d09ff8e81ae9.1746944903.git.asml.silence@gmail.com


[axboe: fold in fix from link2]
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@kernel.dk>