selftests: ncdevmem: Use YNL to enable TCP header split

In the next patch the hard-coded queue numbers are gonna be removed.
So introduce some initial support for ethtool YNL and use
it to enable header split.

Also, tcp-data-split requires latest ethtool which is unlikely
to be present in the distros right now.

(ideally, we should not shell out to ethtool at all).

Reviewed-by: Mina Almasry <almasrymina@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Joe Damato <jdamato@fastly.com>
Signed-off-by: Stanislav Fomichev <sdf@fomichev.me>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20241107181211.3934153-9-sdf@fomichev.me


Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>