btrfs: assert delayed refs lock is held at find_ref_head()

We have 3 callers for find_ref_head() so assert at find_ref_head() that we
have the delayed refs lock held, removing the assertion from one of its
callers (btrfs_find_delayed_ref_head()).

Reviewed-by: Boris Burkov <boris@bur.io>
Reviewed-by: Qu Wenruo <wqu@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Filipe Manana <fdmanana@suse.com>
Reviewed-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>