vdpa/mlx5: Mark vq state for modification in hw vq

.set_vq_state will set the indices and mark the fields to be modified in
the hw vq.

Advertise that the device supports changing the vq state when the device
is in DRIVER_OK state and suspended.

Reviewed-by: Gal Pressman <gal@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Dragos Tatulea <dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Acked-by: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Message-Id: <20231225151203.152687-6-dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>