selftests: netfilter: nft_queue.sh: fix spurious timeout on debug kernel

The sctp selftest is very slow on debug kernels.

Its possible that the nf_queue listener program exits due to timeout
before first sctp packet is processed.

In this case socat hangs until script times out.
Fix this by removing the -t option where possible and kill the test
program once the file transfer/socat has exited.

-t sets SO_RCVTIMEO, its inteded for the 'ping' part of the selftest
where we want to make sure that packets get reinjected properly without
skipping a second queue request.

While at it, add a helper to compare the (binary) files instead of diff.
The 'diff' part was copied from a another sub-test that compares text.

Let helper dump file sizes on error so we can see the progress made.

Tested on an old 2010-ish box with a debug kernel and 100 iterations.

This is a followup to the earlier filesize reduction change.

Reported-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>
Closes: https://lore.kernel.org/netdev/20240829080109.GB30766@breakpoint.cc/


Fixes: 0a8b08c5 ("selftests: netfilter: nft_queue.sh: reduce test file size for debug build")
Signed-off-by: Florian Westphal <fw@strlen.de>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20240830092254.8029-1-fw@strlen.de


Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>