bpf: Replace offsetof() with struct_size()

Compared to offsetof(), struct_size() provides additional compile-time
checks for structs with flexible arrays (e.g., __must_be_array()).

No functional changes intended.

Signed-off-by: Thorsten Blum <thorsten.blum@linux.dev>
Signed-off-by: Andrii Nakryiko <andrii@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/20250503151513.343931-2-thorsten.blum@linux.dev