xfs: check unused nlink fields in the ondisk inode

v2/v3 inodes use di_nlink and not di_onlink; and v1 inodes use di_onlink
and not di_nlink.  Whichever field is not in use, make sure its contents
are zero, and teach xfs_scrub to fix that if it is.

This clears a bunch of missing scrub failure errors in xfs/385 for
core.onlink.

Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>