vdpa/mlx5: Use suspend/resume during VQP change

Resume a VQ if it is already created when the number of VQ pairs
increases. This is done in preparation for VQ pre-creation which is
coming in a later patch. It is necessary because calling setup_vq() on
an already created VQ will return early and will not enable the queue.

For symmetry, suspend a VQ instead of tearing it down when the number of
VQ pairs decreases. But only if the resume operation is supported.

Reviewed-by: Cosmin Ratiu <cratiu@nvidia.com>
Acked-by: Eugenio Pérez <eperezma@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Dragos Tatulea <dtatulea@nvidia.com>
Message-Id: <20240626-stage-vdpa-vq-precreate-v2-20-560c491078df@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>