net: gro: decouple GRO from the NAPI layer

In fact, these two are not tied closely to each other. The only
requirements to GRO are to use it in the BH context and have some
sane limits on the packet batches, e.g. NAPI has a limit of its
budget (64/8/etc.).
Move purely GRO fields into a new structure, &gro_node. Embed it
into &napi_struct and adjust all the references.
gro_node::cached_napi_id is effectively the same as
napi_struct::napi_id, but to be used on GRO hotpath to mark skbs.
napi_struct::napi_id is now a fully control path field.

Three Ethernet drivers use napi_gro_flush() not really meant to be
exported, so move it to <net/gro.h> and add that include there.
napi_gro_receive() is used in more than 100 drivers, keep it
in <linux/netdevice.h>.
This does not make GRO ready to use outside of the NAPI context
yet.

Tested-by: Daniel Xu <dxu@dxuuu.xyz>
Acked-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Toke Høiland-Jørgensen <toke@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Alexander Lobakin <aleksander.lobakin@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>