netfilter: nft_set: remove one argument from lookup and update functions

Return the extension pointer instead of passing it as a function
argument to be filled in by the callee.

As-is, whenever false is returned, the extension pointer is not used.

For all set types, when true is returned, the extension pointer was set
to the matching element.

Only exception: nft_set_bitmap doesn't support extensions.
Return a pointer to a static const empty element extension container.

return false -> return NULL
return true -> return the elements' extension pointer.

This saves one function argument.

Signed-off-by: Florian Westphal <fw@strlen.de>
Reviewed-by: Stefano Brivio <sbrivio@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>