xfs: factor out a xfs_dir_lookup_args helper

Add a helper to switch between the different directory formats for
lookup and to handle the -EEXIST return for a successful lookup.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: "Darrick J. Wong" <djwong@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Chandan Babu R <chandanbabu@kernel.org>