bpo-35198 Fix C++ extension compilation on AIX (GH-10437)

For C++ extensions, distutils tries to replace the C compiler with the
C++ compiler, but it assumes that C compiler is the first element after
any environment variables set. On AIX, linking goes through ld_so_aix,
so it is the first element and the compiler is the next element. Thus
the replacement is faulty:

ld_so_aix gcc ... -> g++ gcc ...

Also, it assumed that self.compiler_cxx had only 1 element or that
there were the same number of elements as the linker has and in the
same order. This might not be the case, so instead concatenate
everything together.
(cherry picked from commit 800d5cd75025876d79ab05980925a05d8e36b63d)

Co-authored-by: Kevin Adler <kadler@us.ibm.com>