runtime: make more page sweeper operations atomic

This change makes it so that allocation and free related page sweeper
metadata operations (e.g. pageInUse and pagesInUse) are atomic rather
than protected by the heap lock. This will help in reducing the length
of the critical path with the heap lock held in future changes.

Updates #35112.

Change-Id: Ie82bff024204dd17c4c671af63350a7a41add354
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/c/go/+/196640


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