cmd/link: change -strictdups checking to handle mix of flags

Update the recently-added '-strictdups' sanity checking to avoid
failing the link in cases where we have objects feeding into the link
with a mix of command line flags (and in particular some with "-N" and
some without). This scenario will trigger errors/warnings due to
inlinable functions and wrapper functions that have different sizes
due to presence or lack of optimization.

Update #31034.

Change-Id: I1dd9e37c2f9bea5da0ab82e32e6fc210aebf6a65
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/c/go/+/169160


Run-TryBot: Than McIntosh <thanm@google.com>
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Reviewed-by: David Chase <drchase@google.com>