database/sql: include SQL column name in Scan() error message

When 'convertAssign' gives an error, instead of giving just the index of
the failing column -- which is not always helpful, especially when there
are lots of columns in the query -- utilize 'rs.rowsi.Columns()' to
extract the underlying column name and include that in the error string:

    sql: Scan error on column index 0, name "some_column": ...

Fixes #23362

Change-Id: I0fe71ff3c25f4c0dd9fc6aa2c2da2360dd93e3e0
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/86537


Reviewed-by: Harald Nordgren <haraldnordgren@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Daniel Theophanes <kardianos@gmail.com>
Run-TryBot: Daniel Theophanes <kardianos@gmail.com>
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